Tears Showing Up in a Reiki Session

We need never be ashamed of our tears.”

― Charles Dickens, Great Expectations

I cried in my first Reiki session; even though I didn’t want to! I was upset that I cried because I said I wasn’t going to and looking back now, I was not giving myself the grace, compassion and empathy I give others when they cry. I was in my position because of decisions I had made years before believing someone I shouldn’t have and then having made decisions that affected the relationships with my mom, sister and niece. I was furious with myself when the “truth” finally came out. I had no one to blame but myself for the actions I took! I reconciled with my mom, sister and my niece. The reconciliation brought my niece and I together and our hearts have bonded so closely; it will never be broken again. I pondered lately about the emotions I am left with after a "session of tears", how do I feel? what is my energy like after I have shed tears? Are tears good for my soul? I have had many different emotions (depending on the attached issue) and sometimes, my tears come with shame. How often have you said to someone, “sorry for crying”?

I’ve since read that tears are a symbol of transformation. That they often correlate with adaptation which is said to require expression of emotions such as sadness, disappointment and often “letting go”, grief can be attached to more than death!

For me, in order to have a good cry, I need to be in a safe space and my best cries are when I’m by myself. However, my hubby has become my “safe space” to land and sometimes our son. They really know how to listen and are both so loving, caring and more often than not, have the best solutions to any issue I’m trying to figure out. Both my husband and our son are drama free and both solution oriented! These things help. If your person is not able to facilitate this and instead gets drawn into the issue and fuels the flame, you’re in for a longer journey of your issue. Maybe that's what is meant to happen? Maybe you're not ready to face the issue? It's your choice to make, when you want an issue to be dealt with, to end.

A common mistake of my parents’ generation was to say “stop crying right now”. I was teased as a younger child as I cried a lot. I was called "cry baby". One summer my cousins and siblings chanted “water works, water works where’d you get the water works”! We played a lot of Monopoly that summer, lol! I’m glad that I did not take on those judgments and they did not change me or take away my agency to cry. It is said that a loss of tears equates to a hardening of the heart.

A hardening of the heart is linked to many things like: depression, aggression and anxiety! All these things can cause blockages to your chakra system! When your chakras are blocked your immune system does not operate at full capacity. You also make poor choices and respond to issues poorly; usually from a place of past traumas and unresolved issues. When we do this, there is no solution, just more chaos and stress!

If you're feeling tearful, take some time out to meditate, walk in nature, sit on the beach, listen to some healing music. Do something you love doing, something that brings all the right feels. If you still have some tears that need to travel from the deepest depths of your soul, let them out. Let them flow through you and envision they are transforming the issue for you so it no longer hurts. The tears are healing you and softening your heart to the issue!

If you can't seem to shake the issue on your own, try Reiki. If you want to try reiki with me, check out my pages titled: CJ Session and About. If my sessions don't resonate with you; check other reiki practitioners in your area and find one that you resonate with. Read their reviews. I don’t charge for the first session as I want you and I to see if we resonate.

Before you go to your session, think about the intention you want to set. The wonderful thing about Reiki is that you do not have to set your intention out loud. If you are more comfortable with keeping it to yourself, that is totally acceptable. The choice is yours. I am also a Certified Professional Life Coach through Fowler International Academy of Professional Coaching. If you do choose to discuss your issues, you can ask me if I have any suggestions for moving forward. Life Coaching is not a replacement for nor is it counselling or therapy. Life Coaching is included in my Reiki sessions and not an extra service. You just have to ask me if I have a suggestion for moving forward with an issue you are having.

Several years ago, I had counselling myself; however, I did not disclose some of the things that probably would have helped those sessions. How could I tell my counsellor things that I couldn't tell myself? I found my safe person (my husband). I even recall asking the universe to help me face and deal with one of those issues and it did come out and I healed from it. That too can be an intention. "I ask the universal energy to guide me safely and softly through the issue of ... that I deal with this issue with the highest and best interests of all involved!" I've always thought that once I prayed about the issue I needed to deal with that it was a "vision quest" for me. While I went through the toughest times, I couldn't eat or sleep. Some of the things that showed up were not fun to go through and I thought my prayers were unanswered. However, those tough times took me to the best places for my body, mind and soul. I felt my ancestors were close by and that felt like safety. That knowledge got me through the tough times. The message I got from them all those years ago was "kindness shall prevail over evil"! That message helped me somewhat with anxiety during that time period. For several years when anxiety showed up I could handle it. Now I have the life gift of Reiki to add to this. The above incident really affected me almost the deepest because I thought I had tackled anxiety. I wanted it to be my last. Reiki has given me the confidence to say that I will never be affected by anxiety to that degree again. When issues arise (and they do), I balance myself and deal with the "now" using the 5 Reiki Principles and the 7 Sacred Teachings, Love, Honesty, Truth, Humility, Courage, Respect and Wisdom. If something shows up that's not what I want it to be, I don't get anxiety because I know it is meant to be. I trust that all is happening for my highest and best purpose, especially when I am living in the 7 sacred teachings and the Reiki Principles.